Making decisions. Follow throughs. And moving on. What things we hold onto from our past make up our present selves. The things we want in the future are within our current reach but do not exist at all - it is a figment of out imagination at best. We build now, in the present, what we want to be tomorrow. Like the expression "sail on", we move forward under the sky of choices. Free will opens us to making decisions.
When we choose a self-detrimental path, we need to stop and ask ourselves what has driven us to that moment and how much power are we willing to give it in our future. Each time we do this we give ourselves compassion and a roadmap of sorts to be more aware the next time until we can move beyond that habit. It extends our compassion from ourselves to others. It takes some time. We shift our paradigm. We have that power.